My blog is so that I can purge all of the random junk that floats through my head and also share some of the memories and moments of our daily life... good and bad. Life as a single, working Mom to a child with Asperger's (aka: Assburgers. Lol) and a sweet, yet energetic 3 year old boy can be a chaotic trainwreck...but it is also amusing and wonderful too.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Team name contest

I decided that I want to put together a team and do the Walk for Autism. I had the idea last year ...but I am a slacker so I'm just now getting around to it and the walk in about 2 months. Doh!

So...I need to think of a team name.
On my Mommy board group that I belong to, I somehow became the person to come up with nicknames or titles or what have you ...but I'm drawing a blank with this.

I got the suggestion to go with the name of my blog ...but my family is not aware of my blog and I want to keep it that way. Plus, I'm not sure if its appropriate to have kids wearing t-shirts that say "ASS"burgers on it. Although it is funny.

I want it to have to do with Lilly, Asperger's, and be clever or cute. But not too clever or none of the Aspies will get it. *Snickers to myself*
She is very girly and loves rainbows, unicorns, mermaids, fairies and all that kind of crap.

Some of you folks are funny as hell ...please throw me some ideas.

The person with the winning name free shirt with the team name from our walk? Lol, how's that for lamest prize ever?? Ha. Sorry!

edited to add... I asked Lilly and she LOVED the Assburgers idea. She said it was funny! (YAY!) Or I got the suggestion of "Team TigerLilly".

I found a cool site that you can design team shirts and other merchandise on... so I started on a shirt.... just mesing around for now.

Custom t-shirt printing at

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Vacation Bible School FAIL

Every evening this week for 2 hours the kids are going to vacation bible school (VBS) at our church.

Lilly has gone for the past four years but this is Ri's first year.
Most of the people in our church have known the kids since they were born so they kinda know what to expect... but my kids have always been in separate classes on Sundays and it's just an hour. (Well, we're usually about 15 mins late so not even a full hour.)
Yeah, I know... I suck. I'd like to see you try and get these monsters out the door on time. It is next to impossible.

Anyway, I came back to pick the kids up after VBS and I got to see them sing their last song before it was over. Only, my kids were not standing there or singing. They were running away from their leader and goofing around. Lilly has had really bad issues with chewing things lately (I think it is the summer chaos and major change in routine) and she had chewed the front of her shirt into a soggy mess. The teacher was holding Riley while he squirmed in her arms. *sigh*.
When she saw me coming towards her, she gave me an exasperated look and jokingly said, "I'm surprised that you're not a raging alcoholic!!!"

How mortifying and sad is that? I know she was trying to be funny...and she was but Oy, its still really embarrassing. And...they only have them for 2 hours.  I live with these lovely monsters every single day.

On night 3 of VBS I arrived to pick them up and Lilly was off in the aisles away from her group with no shoes on. She was running around and not paying any attention to what the leader was telling them about. Her group leader looked less than pleased to see me. I can tell she was just done dealing with her. She said Lilly did nothing except run away from the group and have meltdowns over every little thing. I told her that the kids would not be coming back again. It is just not fair to those people that volunteer their time to have to deal with such frustration and exhausting behavior from my kids. I’m already embarrassed to show my face there again.

On the drive home, I had a “talk” with my kids. I told them that I was so embarrassed of their behavior and that they could not go back to VBS this week if they could not act their age and conduct themselves in a somewhat civilized manner. Now, I know Lilly is not your typical kid. She has Asperger’s. We all know this.
At one point during my “talk” at them, Lilly interrupts me and says,” Mom, you have already said this to us about 50 times. And why do I have to “ACT” like everyone else…why can’t I just “BE” how I am?”


She is right.
I know she is not like everyone else so why I am expecting her to be? Granted, she can improve her behavior and could have acted a little more mature and not so wild…but she was in a large group of kids, with music and lots of things going on. That is just an obvious overstimulation to her brain.
I told her that she could be who she is...but if that means she causes a disturbance and makes things difficult for the teachers, that she probabaly should not be attending those kinds of events anymore.  She was sad...but understood.

Those moments where your kids catch you off guard and teach you something are bittersweet. I felt like such an ass...but was so proud of Lil for knowing who she is and being willing to speak up for herself.

Riley, well...he's a 3 year old boy ....I'm still working on him.

Saturday, June 11, 2011

June Gloom

Here in Southern California we get what everyone refers to as "June Gloom" and it is a lovely continuation of "May Gray".
It stays gloomy and overcast most days.   Sometimes the sun comes for a bit here and there but it goes back behind its soupy sheet of clouds.
I am not a fan of gloomy weather... but I do have a strange fascination with fluffy clouds and sun shining through dark clouds.   I guess it's because we don't get them very often here
I stop and take pix with my phone every time I see one that catches my eye.  
So,  I'm gonna share my pix from this week.   Sorry if this bores you to tears.